Healthy Boundaries: Using Astrological Polarity to Find Balance
We change and so should our boundaries! I wrote this article a while back, however, the “B” word keeps popping up with clients and in personal conversations. The “B” word? BOUNDARIES. The following blog is an oldie but a goodie that always offers an ace in the hole when it comes to recognizing and reforming healthy boundaries by using a simple tool, your astrological opposite.
IT IS MY Intention TO Re-Claim and Re-Form vibrantly genuine boundaries.
The following is a practical lesson in balancing karma and creating healthy boundaries using Astrological Polarities. Those who are close to me know that as of late, I have begun Re-Claiming & Re-Forming my boundaries. (This personal quest started with a reoccurring awareness of frustration and feeling exploited and/or used in social situations).
NEWSFLASH: I have a major role in these experiences! This gal is not innocent in the no-boundary struggle. What do I know?
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My inner world always replicates my outer world.
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I AM responsible for my actions, behaviors, & feelings.
Question: Why is this surfacing for me now? Why am I willing/dedicated to addressing this?
Answer: Without getting too cosmically intense, the answer is written in the stars…
Question: Why am I willing/dedicated to addressing this?
Answer: Without getting too cosmically intense, the answer is written in the stars.
{ PERSONAL EXAMPLE }
I am a Libra, thus my astrological opposite is Aries.
(each astrological sign has an opposite; see chart below)
Libra = Balance, Harmony & Relationships
Aries = Courage, Confidence & Pioneering Spirit
The combo of Mercury Retrograde in Aries (internal momentum and spiritual pioneering) and the Sun’s energy shining on Aries’ Confidence and Courage has generated a Conscious Awareness of an area in my life (Boundaries, or lack thereof) that is out of balance.
When we examine our Sun Sign Opposite (chart below), opportunity arises to incorporate the higher vibrational character traits of the polarity and additionally, to recognize the lower vibrational traits. This enables us to fully view our persona and genuine essence, thus finding balance, harmony and exhibiting healthy boundaries.
HINT: Balance is what you are looking for here! (Not just because I’m a Libra)
Healthy boundaries feel like Balance.
*Use the framework or boundaries & balance when moving through the exercise below.
**Know that in this 11/2 Numerological Year, Balance – Boundaries are a Universal theme for all of us.
Aries
Courageous
Impatient
—————————————— It’s Polarity
Libra
Harmonious
Complacent
Taurus
Strong
Possessive
—————————————— It’s Polarity
Scorpio
Passionate
Vindictive
Gemini
Intelligent
Restless
—————————————— It’s Polarity
Sagittarius
Visionary
Overburdened
Cancer
Nurturing
Insecure
—————————————— It’s Polarity
Capricorn
Practical
Controlling
Leo
Confident
Egotistical
—————————————— It’s Polarity
Aquarius
Innovating
Arrogant
Virgo
Precision
Critical
—————————————— It’s Polarity
Pisces
Compassionate
Unrealistic
Utilize the chart above to identify your Astrological Opposite and it’s high & low vibrational energy traits.
Question: Do you identify with the characteristics associated with your astrological polarity in aspects of your personality?
HINT: Be Honest w/ Yourself (without judgment/shame) and recognize that you may or may not immediately identify with the traits of the opposite (they exist if you take an accurate self-appraisal).
EXTRA CREDIT: Research your astrological opposite. Learn more about its characteristics and begin to see where you already incorporate aspects of this zodiac’s energy into your persona (both high & low vibrational traits).
MORE EXTRA CREDIT: Notice where the astrological opposite characteristics surface for you (family, work, friendships, food, intimacy, spirituality, etc.?). This will assist you in offering karmic insight and shifting your perspective.
Boundary: 1. Something that indicates or fixes a limit or extent. 2. A point or limit that indicates where two things become different. (Merriam-Webster) Bigger Boundaries
Boundaries come in all forms
Physical
Mental
Emotional
Spiritual
Social
Professional
Energetic/Cosmic
(to name a few)
Question: Can you establish a correlation between boundaries (or lack thereof), balance (or lack thereof) and their context (physical, mental, social, etc.) ?
HINT: Be Honest w/ Yourself (without judgment/shame) and recognize that you may or may not immediately identify with the traits of the opposite (they exist if you take an accurate self appraisal).
{ BRINGING IT ALL TOGETHER }
When I embrace the individualistic, courageous Aries Traits (specifically in Social & Professional Situations), I find myself experiencing more Emotional, Mental & Spiritual balance and capable of articulating (non-verbally first, then verbally, if necessary) genuine & balanced boundaries.
FYI: This is where the boundaries get cosmic & karmic.
(this will be developed & healed in my upcoming Life Purpose workshop and through individual client readings/healings)
ASIDE: I recognize that we are all interconnected, sharing the same life-force, however, without the recognition of respectful personal space and energy, I have found that I become drained, too focused on the other (the external), trapped in the loop in my head (ego), and eventually, resentful.
Intention: I am responsible for defining, recognizing and articulating (verbally, non-verbally & energetically) genuine boundaries in every aspect of my multi-dimensional being.
